Wow, It's September of 2023 - Where Have I Been?!

This was and is my baby - a true dedication to my writing craft. Yeah, so, I know - blogging is a thing of the past. No one cares about what I have to say. I cherish my loyal subscribers and followers. Aside from self, who else am I even typing these words for? What am I actually doing?!

This is cathartic, this is my outlet, this is the best way I know how to express myself and it’s only through my words that I am able to find temporary peace. Society seems to have no room or time for sentimental verses. You are all too busy and worried about self to ever read these words.

I am so grateful and thankful to those of you that have taken the time to see what’s on deck in the world of Tish. I don’t know how I was even able to let so much time pass, I have not been true to myself or my creative roots. I think I have been self-sabotaging, who knew I could be so cruel to myself? Do you find yourself fucking shit up for self too? I surely didn’t - I do not feel like I am remotely living up to my creative-earthly duties.

Dare I make another promise or another vow to be better to myself and my craft? What have I been doing for three years? Traveling, living, getting promoted at the work. All seemingly terrible reasons that seem to keep me away from my passion(s).

Why do we do this? Why did I do this? Three years flew by in the blink of an eye - I literally don’t know where the time went. Luckily enough I took plenty of pictures and video to know & remind myself what I have been up to. Here’s to not promising to do and be better - actions speak louder than words. We’ll see when my next post goes up if I am going to actually going to continue this sweet momentum or am I going to fuck it up. Thank you for doing your part - your time is invaluable to me, thank you so, so, much for hanging out with me.

Thoughts? Don’t forget to leave me a comment!

Young, Perfect and Brown

Shower your small queens with love and strength

Feed their minds, souls and bellies with fruits of courage & knowing

For all the perfect brown girls in the world

You have been created to succeed & bloom

Not to be feared and filled with doom & gloom

Head high, stand straight, shoulders back

You can not break

It’s only been a few years and we keep getting better

Long battles are still ahead, blood still bleeds for the cause

There is a better way and there will be a better day

Fill your every desire

It took so many to get you here, stand on their shoulders

Head high, stand straight, shoulders back

You will not break

Unapologetically You - Live Fearless & Without Regret

Hey girl, this is just a reminder to keep shining and being you - continue to live fearlessly and proud. Your crown grows toward the heavens and you skin has been kissed by the sun, you are walking perfection. It’s time for the American “Black” woman to stop the bullshit and get right with self. A lot of brown-skin women have been walking this earth with blinders on, seemingly okay with the narrative we let society create for us. We’ve been conditioned into believing in and creating limited & small worlds for ourselves. Constantly being taught and shown your lack of worth on a regular is beyond mind numbing.

Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned for decades to just “take it;” take the bullshit, take the abuse, take the hate, take the glares, take the disrespect, take the beatings, take the kids, take the weight, take the burden, take the fault. Take …

Fuck. That. Shit. We’re actually Brilliant. Beautiful. Multi-Toned. Healing. Imitated. Mimicked. Breathtaking. Motherly. Strong. Rich. Savvy. Sporty. Clever. Marvelous. Godly.

Be bold, be you, live fiercely, love true you are unlike any other being on this earth. Don't apologize for being authentically you, own every perfection and own every flaw. Ahead lies a healthier vision of self-worth without fear of the static & noise in your rearview.

Good Reads - Get Lost In A Book

There is nothing like diving into a good book - getting lost in a far away land, an alternate time, or even someone’s true life tale. Reading looks so good on you - an educated, well read woman is the best looking thing on the planet. Find your peace and decompress in a cozy corner at home, your favorite park, even the library; there are so many amazing places to pop a squat and read a juicy tale.

Start a book club - you get to drink wine, catch up with your book worm squad and have meaningful debates and conversations. Besides, when was the last time you had quality human interactions? Exactly, it’s been far too long! There are really no excuses as to why you have yet to pick up a book or e-reader, read before you go to bed, on the bus or train, or even on your lunch break; there is more than enough time in a day to find your you time. Expand your world and your mind one tale at a time, reading is so sexy. Today is the day - pick up that book that’s been collecting dust in the corner and get to reading it.

What's Really Stopping You?

So you’ve been scrolling through social media and you start feeling jealous because everyone and their mama or significant seem to be going on vacations to seemingly unreachable locals. Places you’ve only dreamt of vising. Dream no more - turn that vision into a reality. I’m not talking about just visualizing your dream vacation(s), make that shit happen. Yup, you have a family. Full time job? Check. Living check to check? Yup. Damn, seems like there is no way to have that dream vacation. You should just give up, right?

Wrong, there is nothing stopping you except you - that sounds so cliche, but it’s so true. So, how do we make this trip of your happen? It ain’t gonna be easy, there will be small sacrifices but a trip of a lifetime & memories with your loved ones (or self) is well worth a bit of budgeting and potential a side hustle or dare I say seasonal part-time job.

If you want it you can have it - do you have a hobby or a craft that will make you some additional dream vacation cash flow? In most metropolitan areas you can obtain a local permit to have a sidewalk, yard or garage sale. There’s a great way to make some extra cash. Have kids? If they are old enough they can shovel neighbors snow and mow lawns. Do I hear summertime lemonade & iced tea stands being built? Look for seasonal work - adding an addition $150- $350 a month (at a minimum) can make that dream trip of yours a reality in no time! There are so many creative ways to make legit legal money.

Discipline is key, now that you have additional cash flow coming in it’s time to get down to the savings nitty gritty. No spending allowed. PERIOD. Place your money into a bank account where you are not able to withdraw monies unless you are at the bank or if you do receive a bank card, do not activate it until it is time to purchase your dream vacation and accommodations. You can also use the card while on vacation (because you saved a ton of money). Seriously discipline is everything, before you know it you’ll be saving money, reaching goals and if you have kids you are teaching them great lessons about saving, working hard to get what you want and sacrifice vs. reward. Do your research and book your travel in advance with insurance - happy & safe travels!!

A Whole New Comfort Zone

Just get out there and do something fun and new. I sense a theme with these posts! The hope for this post is to ignite a flame of curiosity & a hunger to get up off of the couch and go outside and have some fun.

Maybe you don't have to take a ride on a camel's back; maybe it's a picnic in the park, a stroll on the beach with your dog, hell even camping out in the backyard with the kids counts - the point is save your money, plan and make the best of your time.

It's time to get excited and live just a little bit more - time to break those ignorant stereotypes. There is a new adventure just waiting around the corner for you.