You Can’t Sage a Bad Personality

The Real Reason Your Energy’s Off Isn’t Mercury—It’s You.

You ever walk into a room and feel it before you see it?
That tight grip in the air. That quiet, collective brace. That shift when everybody lowkey adjusts themselves, not out of respect — but survival. Because someone with heavy, seething, sour-ass energy has arrived.

Let’s call it what it is:
Energy vampires exist.
And they’re not just mythical — they have key cards, job titles, group chats, and coffee orders.

We all know someone who kills a room the moment they enter. Not because they’re powerful — but because they’re performing power. Their presence doesn’t command respect; it demands compliance. These are the folks who believe joy is unprofessional, play is immature, and kindness is weakness. These are the self-appointed Fun Nazis. And nothing — nothing — gives me the ick more than a grown adult who actively works to extinguish the light in others.

You know the type:

• Fake-smiling while silently judging.

• Speaking in condescension like they invented the damn job.

• Overcompensating for their own insecurities by micromanaging others.

• Treating rank like royalty and everyone else like peasants.

It’s that slick superiority. That fake-deep tone of voice that says, “My word is law” when in reality, it’s just low-budget tyranny dressed in business casual.

Let’s be clear though — bad days are normal. We all get tired. We all get moody. But that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about people whose entire essence feels like a drain.
Negative energy isn’t a mood swing.
It’s a lifestyle.
It’s entitlement, ego, and self-loathing disguised as structure. It’s folks who haven’t unpacked their own trauma and instead leak it all over the workplace, the friendship, the relationship, the group setting. It's heavy. And somehow? You feel it before you even know they’re in the room.

Here’s the thing: My glow has never been up for debate (and neither should yours).
Yes, I’m opinionated. Yes, I’ll question things. But I’m not here to dominate or dim — I’m here to breathe. I like joy. I like to laugh. I like to keep it real without keeping it rude. But for some reason, that energy threatens people. Especially those who can’t fathom being free in the ways I naturally am. And I’ve had enough micro-aggressions and backhanded “You’re so articulate” comments to know exactly what I’m up against.

Some people see light and try to bask in it. Others try to blow it out.

To that I say: No, ma’am. No sir. Not today.

I’m no stranger to power. But to me, power is love.
It’s not fear. It’s not ego.
Power is being soft when you could be sharp.
It’s health. It’s joy. It’s knowing your limits and still choosing to grow.
Power is setting boundaries.
Power is taking your lunch break without guilt.
Power is elevating the next person, especially when they look like you.

I recharge not by winning petty battles, but by disengaging from them completely.
I need space. I need art. I need nature. I need sleep.
Sometimes I need a full day of silence followed by a social gathering that heals my spirit.
Sometimes I just need to create — to make something beautiful out of nothing but my thoughts and fingers.
That’s my therapy. That’s my protection. That’s my rebellion.

Because rest is resistance.
And joy is power.
And honestly? I will never apologize for bringing light into a room — even if it exposes someone else's shadow.

🔥6 Spicy Ways to Handle a Negative Personality Without Catching a Case

(Translation: How to stay glowing when the room is giving gloom)

1. Stage a Fake Zoom Freeze Mid-Conversation.
Tilt your head. Blink like you just got possessed. Mutter, "You're freezing... wait, am I freezing?" then peace out like a Black auntie dodging church gossip.

🧘🏾‍♀️Spiritual Translation: Energy shifts can be dodged just like drama. Exit doesn’t always need permission — just strategy.

4. Loudly Compliment Everyone Else in the Room.
"Wow, I love the peaceful vibe you bring, Mya. It’s like a chakra massage." Then pause. Stare directly at the chaos gremlin without blinking.
Let the silence drag.

🧘🏾‍♀️Translation: Starve the negativity. Affirm what you want more of. People who dim lights can’t stand being ignored in the glow.

5. Respond to Passive Aggression With Gospel Calm.
They say, “I guess some people have time to chit chat.”
You say, “And I guess some people don’t have joy. Praying for you though.” Then smile with your whole face.

🧘🏾‍♀️Translation: Be the sermon without the sanctuary. Kill it with calm and clarity — they can't box with your peace.

10. Ask “Are you okay?” With Real Confusion and Audacity.
Squint like they’re glitching. Say, “You alright? The tone felt... crunchy.” Offer a breath mint for no reason. Watch them unravel.

🧘🏾‍♀️Translation: Invite awareness. Not shade — sunlight. Clarity is cleansing, and baby, you’re a walking detox.

11. Pull Out a Notebook and Start “Taking Notes for HR.”
Even if you're at brunch. Even if you're at your cousin’s gender reveal. Click your pen. Look them up and down. Whisper, “Mmmhmm, got it.”

🧘🏾‍♀️Translation: Protect your peace and your paper trail. Even if it’s mental notes — let them know their energy is... on record.

13. Just Leave. No announcement. No explanation. Just ghost.
Pack your vibe and your edges and vanish like a mist. If they ask where you went? Tell them the truth: “Away from what was draining me.”

🧘🏾‍♀️Translation: Your exit is a spell. Your boundaries are sacred. Disappear like a legend, not a victim.

Still reading? That means you felt this.

And if this resonated deep in your bones — stay close. Because this isn’t a one-off rant, it’s a lifestyle audit. I write about what it means to protect your peace, reclaim your light, and move like you know you’re chosen. This blog is where the real ones gather — to laugh, reflect, and call shit out with love and fire.

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